Author
simplifies her life, finds bliss
by Johnny Sparks
Student Writer
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Rebecca Merriman |
Rebecca Merriman ('88) sits in an oversized chair, sipping a cup of Earl Grey.
It's just before dawn. A yellow legal pad and ink pen rest on her
lap. Several thick books surround her chair.
"To bed with the chickens and up with them," she says. Simple
mornings with reading and journal writing.
Merriman taught high school art in Cheatham County (Tenn.) for
six years. She loved her job the first five years but, in the
sixth year, she grew weary of teaching and decided to simplify her
life.
"I began getting to know myself through journal
writing,"
Merriman says. "The better I got to know myself, the more I
realized how much I loved simplicity, solitude and writing."
During summers, she found solitude and simplicity in the
mountains. Her summer home was a remote location in the San Juan
Mountains of Southern Colorado. Merriman traveled, alone, to her
hideaway as often as her schedule allowed.
Her first solo trip came just after she and her husband
returned from a summer vacation in Colorado. While on vacation,
they had purchased a small plot of mountain land, and Merriman
found herself reluctant to leave the peaceful spot when vacation
ended.
"As an art and psychology teacher, I always looked forward to
the beginning of each new year," Merriman says. "However, I
realized the value and necessity of summers off--for renewal."
Back in her Clarksville home, she prepared for another school
year, but school renovation delayed the start of the academic year
for two weeks--and gave Merriman a chance to "renovate" her
life. She took advantage of the opportunity, driving 1,400 miles
one way for six more days in Colorado. She stayed in a tent near a
mountain stream.
"The practical side of me knew it would be crazy to drive
1,400 miles to camp solo for six days, then turn around and drive
1,400 miles all the way back to begin teaching," Merriman says. "My inner voice said
'go for it.' Thankfully, my inner voice
won out.
"Only a personal experience can evoke an understanding of the
transformational power of such a solo sojourn," Merriman says."
The next summer she returned for an extended visit. In natural
surroundings, she found the joys of solitude, simplicity and
inspiration. With new happiness and a sense of self-awareness, she
wrote. And the words she wrote at her mountain getaway became her
first book, "Simply Happy."
"Simply Happy: How to Simplify Your Life and Find
Happiness"
offered common-sense approaches to simplification and allowed
Merrimen to share her bliss.
After her second summer in Colorado, she returned to begin her
sixth year of teaching. Each day grew more challenging. After the
peace of the mountains, the noise of 1,500 high school students
was unbearable.
"I still loved the kids, but somehow the job was no longer
enough," she says.
On a cool November morning at her Clarksville home, she arose
at 4:30 a.m., overcome by the thought of another unfulfilling day.
She had reaching a turning point.
"I knew something had to give," Merriman says. "I walked out
into the cold, dark morning and looked up at the stars. Tears
welled up, and I cried out, 'God, I'm begging you--set me free!"
She says an answer came to her. The answer changed her life
forever.
"As clear as crystal, a small voice said 'You are
free,'"
Merriman says.
She finished the school year and resigned. Shortly afterwards,
"Simply Happy" was published. The release of her first book
forced Merriman to desert the ideas of simplicity she advocated.
Her second book came quickly. "Simply Free: How to Stop
Struggling and Start Living" documented her awakening and
subsequent freedom. "Simply Free" was more spiritual than its
predecessor, "Simply Happy."
Reader response spurred her founding of The Simply Happy
Institute. The institute provided a monthly newsletter, and
Merriman conducted author retreats. The retreats were held in
simple, but exotic locales like Yelapa, Mexico.
"Yelapa is a tropical paradise that can be reached only by
boat. There are no roads, no electricity and no noise--just peace
and unbelievable natural beauty. A perfect place for a retreat,"
Merriman says.
Some called her a "happiness guru." But, between the retreats
and exhausting speaking circuits, she found little time for
solitude. The Colorado vacations--once months long--were reduced
to a couple of weeks. The happiness guru grew unhappy.
The year 1997 marked another turning point for Merriman. She
says, "What had promised to be a glamorous career lost its
glimmer. I felt like a charlatan as I continued to teach about
bliss."
A miserable Merriman realized she had imprisoned herself again.
She wrote in her journal about her desire to get back to basics: "July 7, 1997. Here it is already July and I
haven't even
figured out when I am going to be able to get away to
Colorado. After all those years it took to find my bliss, here I am
not following it...teaching others that life's too short not
to...what a phony I am."
Merriman decided to re-simplify her life. "After realizing how
weary I had become of teaching others how to find their bliss, it
occurred to me I had misplaced mine," she says. "My soul was
hungry."
Book three, "Simply God: Recovering the Part of You
That's God," came after the re-simplification, which included shedding
the burden of her growing institute with its retreats, seminar and
speaking engagements. Her agent inherited all PR responsibilities.
Merriman turned inward again and is working on her fourth book.
Book four, a collection of essays, breaks away from the self-help
style of her previous three books.
"I am no longer concerned with whether my books
sell,"
Merriman says. "I'm just writing more and more of what's in my
heart, knowing this hunger to write is an indication it's what I'm born to
do--at least, in this period of my life."
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